I love the writings of Matthew Kelly, an Australian-born business and spiritual writer. Matthew Kelly loves to say a couple of things. One of my favorites is: “Change your habits and you can change your life”.
I believe this. I’ve seen it happen in my own life.
Here’s an example: I could say: “I wish I could have a better body”, but then if I don’t change my habits and if I live and eat and drink the same as I always have, then my body will not change. It is impossible to have it change under conditions that are no different than they have always been.
If you don’t change what you eat and what you drink and how you live, then it is guaranteed- your body will not change. You have to change what you do and how you treat your body – before your body can change. To change, consider how you feed your body, what you give it to drink and what exercise you give to your body. When you change your habits for your body, your body will change.
They say that if you consistently change what you do for 21 days, then you will have changed your habit and once you have changed your habit- you will change!
What do you need to change? Start with one thing. Then do it! Do it for 21 days and see if you are different. I guaranty that you will be!
If you want to change, change how you think about yourself. I sell jewelry- so, I like to tell people that if you keep buying exactly the same things and think that it will give you a new and exciting difference in your appearance- then, just know- it won’t! It is not going to happen! Choose something different! Choose to be different! Once you have changed things up in your appearance, not only will other people take a second look at you- you will take a second look at yourself!
People will ask: “What’s different about you”? Here’s the answer: “I’ve changed my habits and once I changed my habits, I changed myself”.
Choose to change for the best that you can be.
P.S. That reminds me of another one of my favorite Matthew Kelly expressions: “Become the best version of yourself”.
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If you could paint a picture of what love looks like, what would it be like? Imagine that this picture of love is created only from nature. What would it be like?
As time passes, it seems to me that my picture of love looks like this: At the bottom of the picture, love is like a valley. It is full of brightly colored flowers. The sheer space that the flowers have is broad and wide. One color moves into another in this explosion of color. The flowers have their thin stems and the heads of the flowers blow easily in the wind. It is so beautiful to look at all of the color and the unique design that the flowers have.
And then, imagine that time passes. The painting depicts an ascent up a mountain. Notice that there are these brightly colored flowers, but the flowers are interspersed with bushes. Some small. Others larger. Some of the bushes have their own flowers. Many of the bushes have leafy branches. The flowers and bushes are growing from the incline at the base of the mountain.
And then time passes. And the mountain gets steeper as love climbs. The bushes have broader branches and they have deeper roots. The bushes have a better stronghold against the incline of the mountain. There are some trees along this path- their trunks are lean and their height is low, but they scatter about this breadth of the mountain.
And then time passes. And the mountain terrain has a higher vantage point. The view of the area below is clear. You can see the bright colored flowers below but there are fewer of them around the path as you walk. Now instead, there are more trees and the trees have thicker, stronger trunks and the bushes have thicker branches. The leaves of the trees and bushes have grown bigger. And as time continues to pass, the bushes are almost trees as they push their height and expand their breadth. The mountain walk allows a better view of what is on top of the mountain. From this vantage point, what is below has become blurred, without its sharp definition. Instead, it has become an impression of color that has run together.
And time passes. And eventually, you are at the top of the mountain looking down. Now, all that is below takes on that broad brushstroke of color with its blurred definition. Nothing is clearly visible but the overall perspective. The perspective is better than it has been before. You can see above you as you have never seen before.
For me, this is my picture of love. I share this with you, upon the marriage of my beloved niece, Sarah, to her partner, Ben.***
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On a walk in our mountainside desert area this week, I saw the strangest thing. From a rock grew a tree. The tree trunk rested against the side of this rock, with the trunk supported by the rock. The tree seemed to boast its strength. How unlikely. How wonderful. We had had a strong wind the night before, as the seasons are changing and the winds are ushering in the cooler weather. As tree branches lay across the landscape, here was this tree- holding strong and proudly boasting its branches and leaves.
This scene made my mind race in a million different directions. How many times have I found myself in situations in which I knew that I had to be strong in the face of difficulty? How many times did I have to accept my fear and walk ahead with courage? We have all been there. And was there a rock for support?
I thought about the many people in history that have had to have courage and I wondered what might their rock of support have been? My Aunt Catherine took a case to the Illinois Supreme Court in about 1940, to petition the Court for women to be able to divorce their husbands without cause- a right that had long belonged to men. To be sure- there were no female Illinois Supreme Court justices to consider her case! We each know a story of someone close to us that has had courage to speak up or to act in the face of challenge, perhaps even to their own detriment.
For me- I am always sure that I have the rock of God’s love and support reminding me that I am never alone as I walk into challenges. If I hear and feel the strength of conviction to do something or to say something that is uncomfortable, but which I know is what God asks for me to do, then I know I will have His rock supporting my otherwise frail trunk, my weak branches and my insignificant leaves. When the winds blow, I know that I will have the support I need. May we all feel that strength of a rock supporting us!
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I get affected by the things I read. I just finished reading Leo Tolstoy’s The Death of Ivan Ilyich. I am now reading Bill Bryson’s Neither Here Nor There. It’s like going from a funeral to the best darned party you’ve been to for a very long time. Good thing that I have them back to back- and I’m ending with the party! I love a good social eat, drink and laugh!
In The Death of Ivan Ilyich, Ivan has successfully climbed the “corporate ladder” only to get to the top and find himself sick and dying. When God asks Ivan what he wants in response to Ivan’s pleas for reprieve, Ivan says: “I want to live”. God asks him: “When were you living?” and then Ivan thinks about how he had some pleasure from work, but there was so much more to it that he could not identify in his work as “really living”. So when had he “really lived”? He remembered his childhood and fondly thought of all that “really living” meant then.
Now as I read Neither Here Nor There, Bill Bryson talks about the experience of traveling to Europe. There is little that is knowingly familiar and everything is mysteriously fun and exciting in this travel through Europe. In Great Britain, people don’t eat with their forks correctly. In France, people cannot stand in line without a problem erupting. In Spain, they do not know how to eat at the proper time, and the Italians, well forget it- they have absolutely no idea about how to drive a car! And it just makes me laugh to think about how the simplest things are new and different and exciting from the moment I stepped off the American soil and into Bill Bryson’s read. I just love it!
So, may we all be a kid for a while! Some day we may find ourselves in the same spot as Ivan Ilyich and we might ask ourselves: “When did we really live”? I figure, I better start now to create the opportunities to feel like I am experiencing that excitement of childhood- to marvel at everything around me as new and fun and interesting rather than taking it all for granted in a boring repetition of a “matter of fact”.
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If you haven’t started to dream about life with all that it can hold for you- I hope that you find this Reflection an invitation to do just that! If I can help you to feel beautiful with the perfect Resa Royale jewelry- I would love that! Please check out our website (www.ResaRoyale.com) and/or email me at Catherine@ResaRoyale.com or call me toll-free at (877)-496-9454. It means the world to me to help to make your day nicer.
So many people tell me that as Covid drags on- that they need a little “pick me up”. What makes you feel good in the midst of “it all”?
Here is my own “self help” list. 5 great things to do. Maybe there is something in here that you might like.
- Sit in silence for a while every day. In silence I get a chance to stop- to review how well I may or may not have listened. I try to think about what I learned during the day and to reflect on what opportunities I have missed. It leaves a space for God to speak to me- without so much noise that otherwise prevents me from hearing. I can otherwise pretty easily be unable to hear!
- Accomplish something. Here’s something I can accomplish: Reading a book. I especially like to read books about someone I admire and that I would like to emulate. Every time I do that, I learn about the tremendous difficulties people that I admire have suffered. I realize that their courage and character were crafted only after they were sculpted by very hard times. It just reinforces for me that the people that I admire most have not had it easy. I hope to learn from their experiences.
- Do a kind deed. It is incredible to me that by doing something for someone else, I really have no idea if the other person feels better about themselves and their own situation, but it makes me feel good about myself. It is a double reward- one kind deed has twice the positive effect.
- Laugh a little. There are more choices for comedy in movies, series shows and books than ever before- and the creativity of some of these is fantastic. When the tears of laughter roll down my cheeks, it is just the best feeling in the world. If you don’t know of good comedies, ask your friends or check out reviews online. There are some great apps available for the culmination of reviews.
- Create something new. Putting things together in the kitchen is a great talent. I don’t happen to have that talent- but I really appreciate those that do! Instead, I love to help people feel beautiful, recognizing their beauty. If I can make a person smile with just the right wardrobe or accessories- it makes me feel like a million bucks. I also love to write- and when I can do that in a meaningful way, it makes me feel good. Your talent might be music or art or gardening or construction or design- but we each have talents and using them to create something wonderful is fantastic!
Let me know if I can do anything for you. It would make my day. In the meantime, stay well and enjoy a good laugh today! With all my best to you.
I fell in love with the poem “Desiderata” by Max Ehermann. It was written in the late 1920s and yet, it is as relevant today as it was then. Max Ehermann was a Terre Haute, Indiana attorney who left the practice of law in his 40s to focus on writing. What a great choice that was- and we are all the beneficiaries! Today, the best Reflection that I can share with you are the words from this great poem.
Perhaps if you keep these words close to you, they can help you through whatever challenges might be a part of your life. Be well. In mind and body. Know that we are never alone.
“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.”
May this poem quench your mind, heart and soul. May you and your families be well.
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I have heard it said many times, that when admirers went to see Mother Teresa in Calcutta, she who would often tell them: “Go find your own Calcutta”. It makes me smile just to think of her very direct nature and her truth in so few words.
Mother Teresa became this incredible person in history because she put people in showers who were found on the streets soiled by their own excrement. She dressed them in clean underwear. She put them in a bed with clean sheets and she gave them something to eat and drink. For some, these may have been the last and final experiences of their lives before their journey from this world to the next.
In my life, I find it difficult to relate to the dying, destitute people for whom Mother Teresa cared. I find it equally hard to consider myself as Mother Teresa- especially now, as I stave off any chance that there may be a virus at my home or in my body. How did Mother Teresa avoid getting sick herself? And how did she avoid the effects of dark despair, fatigue and loneliness? It all had to have taken its toll.
I can only think that if a person is doing such incredible work, that God gives them the health, the strength and the resources that they need to do that work. That is- Mother Teresa had to have had supporters- supporters who financially gave, who sent words of encouragement and who lent a helping hand. It has to be for anything as great as what Mother Teresa accomplished, that there were others who chose to support Mother Teresa and to physically and emotionally fill the depth of her body and her soul’s strength. They were a part of her story.
So “Where is our Calcutta”? We are called to help one another- whether by financially supporting one another, by giving of our time or by the gift of our talents in aid of one another. There is a Calcutta seemingly everywhere we look. It is waiting for us to join with others to make this World a better place. Let’s work to make a difference!
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The Bible begins with the book of Genesis. In these first chapters, God creates the world and seeing that it is good, God gathers the dust of the earth together. Into this clay sculpture, God blows His breath and in this act of breathing, God creates a living human being. His gift of breath breathes the Holy Spirit into us- infusing us with love. God’s breath is love.
For George Floyd, this breath that he was given by God at his birth, was taken from him. A very broken police officer, some accompanying incapacitated police officers and some reticent onlookers, all caused or acquiesced when George Floyd’s last breath of air was taken from him. We mourn George Floyd’s death and the lack of love that all of the people at the scene of this event demonstrated, all of whom had been choked from their own breath of courage, reason and action. In every sense, we mourn the depravity of love that caused this horrific event.
What shall we do with our own breath? Shall we use it to condemn everyone involved when there have been times in our lives when we have lacked courage to stand up to what we know to be wrong? Would we have had the courage, the reason and the strength to have taken steps to change this course of events, were we to have been there ourselves? Have we demonstrated in our families, our jobs and our communities that we are dedicated to being the person who acts to stop the negativity and the destruction? Are we blowing the breath of love into the situations that we face in our own lives?
We are called to have the courage to be love, to live love and to show love to every person.
Come Holy Spirit. Fill us with love. Fill our hearts with kindness, empower us to be agents for courage, strength and forgiveness. Help us to be your breath of love. Teach us Lord for we are weak- to learn to love and to be love.
It is your breath of love, breathed through our love of one another, that will resuscitate this broken world in which we live.
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How many times have you heard it said, or have you said to others: “I am not as smart as you are” or “I didn’t get the opportunities that you got” or “We did not have the money that you had”. The list could go on and on. Of course, we got talents and abilities and opportunities- but we often see ourselves in light of what we did not or do not have.
But imagine for a moment that whatever talents and abilities and opportunities that we each received- imagine that those talents and abilities and opportunities are not a part of our lives by chance. What if the fact that we have them is not even because we were somehow entitled to them or that we “earned” them? What if we did not get them because we “deserved” them?
What if instead, those gifts were given to us for a purpose? What if they are not what WE did or what we received by OUR efforts? Consider this: the talents and abilities and opportunities that we have were provided to us for God’s purpose.
We each have a purpose for our lives. God gave each of us a purpose for our lives. We were created with gifts- but, not just in order to sustain ourselves,but in order to give those gifts away to others. Our purpose is for one another.
Perhaps when we next have that “easy” thing completed, perhaps we might think: “How am I to use that talent for God’s purpose?” The more we think about that, the better our chance that the answer to that question will be understood. And perhaps, we will understand that other people got their talents and abilities and opportunities for their purpose from God and for God.
With that understanding, it is time to let go of wanting what they have!! It is time to get to work on what we have. On ourselves. And on God’s purpose for us.
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We live in a society that has a label for everything. There’s a label on the clothes we wear. There’s a label for the food we eat. There’s a label for the generation in which we were born. We are even told that others can tell a lot about who we are and how we think by virtue of the color of our skin or how we vote, our faith or our sexual orientation. It is as if there is a pre-determined thought process that comes with all of these labels that we have (or have been given). It is as if someone can talk about who we are without ever having met us.
But nothing could be farther from the truth! Who we are has nothing to do with labels. We are that voice within us that God gave us that makes us uniquely ourselves. That voice is God. How could God ever be limited or defined by a label?
What does that voice inside of you invite you to become? How does God manifest His glory in you? Unquestionably, it is something fantastic.
Embrace who you are!
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