Have you heard it said that if you choose to pursue your Purpose, then every day will be a happy one?  Or said another way, that once you follow your passion and Purpose that you never work a day in your life?  There are millions of self-help books that proclaim that message.

Let’s test the idea.  I like to consider the Bible, because it is one of the oldest books of wisdom through history.  At one point in the New Testament, the Apostle Paul is writing a letter to the Thessalonians (a group of people where he had recently ministered).  Paul writes about his experience in working to minister.  He says:  “You recall…, our toil and drudgery.  Working night and day in order not to burden any of you, we proclaimed to you the gospel of God”.  In other words, to eat- Paul worked.  He probably worked doing manual labor.  While Paul’s Purpose was to preach about Jesus, Paul “toiled” of “drudgery” so that he could support himself while he traveled to preach about God.

Consider Johannes Brahms, one of the greatest composers of all time.  You may remember the lullaby he wrote, that has put many children to sleep over the years.  Brahms did not start his music career with his lullaby and become an instant success.  Much to the contrary, he worked from a young age playing the piano in saloons.  He hated the work.  He was often abused by the drunk patrons.  Nonetheless, he needed the money to survive and it took time before he was able to survive on his musical compositions.

A final example:  Harrison Ford.  Long before Harrison Ford was a famous actor, he worked as a carpenter.  He was a carpenter in order to eat, while at the same time he sought auditions in order to one day become who we know today as the character- “Indiana Jones”.

These examples identify that to achieve their Purpose, each of these people had to work in jobs that were tiring, difficult or unpleasant.  They worked because they knew their Purpose and they stayed focused on their Purpose.  Their Happiness was in their pursuit to achieve their Purpose, even as they “toiled” to get the opportunity.

For these reasons, I do not support the idea that once you follow your passion and Purpose, you will never work a day in your life.  Instead, maybe we should say that it takes a lot of work to be able to pursue your passion and Purpose.  Do it anyway.  Your Purpose is worth the effort.  It ultimately leads to Happiness.


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I saw this in an airport this weekend.  I love it!  I am a fan of the ballerina- Misty Copeland, so that helps- but the words really speak to me.  “Picture Yourself Winning”.  These three words are the beginning of every great accomplishment.

In Reflection #16, we said that to reduce stress in our lives, we have to know the happiness that we desire for our lives.  Once we know how to define our happiness, we reduce stress by asking ourselves:  “Does this help me to get to the happiness that I seek for my life?”  If the answer is “no”- then we must let this opportunity go and move on to the next thing.

The conversation starts with the question:  “How do I define the happiness that I seek”?

When I talk to young people about this question, they often say to me: “Happiness is having a great car, a great home, beautiful things to wear and great places to go”.  I am left with the idea that Happiness is then defined by what we have.  Happiness is a materialistic thing.

Let’s test this proposition.  If Happiness is best defined by what we materially possess, then it should follow that the lowest suicide rates in the world are of the wealthiest among us.  Study after study identifies however that this is not true.  Studies show that suicide is most prevalent in the extremes:  suicide occurs more often among those of greatest poverty and among those of greatest wealth.

Material possessions cannot then be the definition of the Happiness we seek.  Consider instead the proposition that we define Happiness in terms of a Purpose and an Aspiration.  If a young person said that they felt that their Purpose is in working to create a more unified United States- we might all decide that that is a great Purpose.  But merely believing in a great Purpose cannot be enough.  It has to be coupled with Action.  If the person who desires to unify America adds to that Purpose an Aspiration to become an elected official- because an elected official can speak on behalf of Americans to influence results in legislation and policy- now we have a Happiness goal that is actionable.

We were all created with unique talents and attributes.  Our Purpose is wired within us.  While I might want to be a great ballerina like Misty Copeland, I am anything but the most athletic among us.  I was not made for that Purpose.  Often the best place to start to understand our own Purpose is to consider:  “What am I good at doing”?  Then consider:  “What would I really like to do”?  When we’ve got that identified, we can define our Aspiration:  “What do I want to achieve in doing that”?

And then it all becomes a state of mind.  Happiness happens with the everyday Persistence in working within our Purpose toward our Aspiration.  Nothing is ever easy.  Your ultimate Aspiration will take incredible hard work, but your Happiness will depend on your Persistence to achieve your Aspiration, as a manifestation of your Purpose.  Therein, regardless of how much money you have, you will achieve a satisfying life:  Happiness.

Time to start thinking about what you are good at doing and where you want to take it.  You are going to make a difference!  Picture Yourself Winning!


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Burnt out.  I hear so many people say that they are over-worked and stressed out.  They ask:  “Should I leave my job?”  The fear of course, is that things are no different elsewhere or that there isn’t a good job out there.  Here’s how I think about it:

I used to love going to a Halloween haunted house that included a maze in the yard outside the house.  The maze was extravagant, with tall walls and one corridor that led to another.  I could spend a very long time trying to find my way out.

If you never dropped a little something in a corner as you made a turn, you could easily find yourself walking in circles. You knew that if you could see where you had been, you could make a plan to get to where you were going.  In that way- the end was there before you knew it.

So, this maze at the haunted house teaches me that even if I have to go through a lot of turns, if I know that I am advancing in my knowledge and ability to get to where I am doing- I am doing well.

In other words, when the job stresses you out- figure out whether you are in a job that makes a difference to get you from where you are now to where you want to go.  If you have no idea where you want to go with your life then you can never measure your success along the way and you are guaranteed to wander aimlessly.  You will likely be unsatisfied with your life.

The first step is to figure out where you want to go.  Define the happiness that you ultimately want for your life.  Think of exactly what you want your life to be like.  Then, what are the incremental steps to get you from where you are now to where you want to go?

When you put yourself in control of your life, it is amazing how the paradigm of stress changes.  Now you see the steps to your personal success as empowering and the more you advance along the path- the more you feel excited about everything in your life.  The stress will be less with the understanding that you are now in control.  In other words- your life is your choice.  Take control of the future that you dream by making choices today that lead to your personal happiness. One day at a time, the choices you make to take control of your life will lead to the happiness you seek.  Guaranteed!


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Our former next door neighbor is a relief pitcher in professional baseball.  One day I asked him how he controls his nerves when he is called into a baseball game after the last pitcher has caused the bases to be loaded.  Now, with the pressure on the relief pitcher, at this very big moment, the relief pitcher has to get his team out of the inning without any runs being scored.  If that isn’t enough pressure, the fans are screaming in the stands.

“I concentrate on the catcher and I block everything else out of my mind”, our neighbor explained.  “I think about exactly where I am going to place that next pitch”.

“But the screaming and the yelling- doesn’t that get to you?”  I asked, certain that it had to be unsettling.

“I don’t hear it”, he said.

And that’s how you get to be a professional baseball player!

It is hard for me to think about “tuning out” the noise of a baseball stadium especially when now- it’s all about YOU and the next pitch comes out of YOUR hands!  (You can see how I make it “all about me”!)  Of course, that would make anyone nervous!  My neighbor says that it is almost about being outside of your own body and “being in the zone”.  He has trained his brain to concentrate completely on his focus.

I know that there can be great value if I can figure out how to use this technique in my own life.  What if I could be “in the zone” when I am around negative, critical or self-centered people- you know, those people who are all about what you and I “can’t do” and never about what we “can” do.  You know, those people that see everything in terms of how they can make the world as miserable as they are.

What if I could be a professional in the “zone” of my choosing- living outside of myself and into the “zone” that I create? Imagine what it might be like if we could live life focused on a “zone” of gratitude, appreciation and peacefulness?  (My GAP Zone:  Gratitude, Appreciation and Peacefulness). Can you imagine what happiness might exist in that “zone”?

I’m going to give it a try.  Gratitude.  Appreciation.  Peacefulness.  A GAP Zone.  This is the catcher I am aiming for.  I am trying to move straight into that space.  I can think of no better “Zone”.

I am definitely a “rookie”- but you never become a professional unless you’ve mastered being a “rookie”.  I’m working on it!


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Start Dreaming!

Of course we all dream at night- and sometimes we can even remember what it was that we dreamt about.  But what about the dreaming we have done most of our lives- that creates the vision of what we would love to do if we could.

Many years ago, I had arrived at the point in life when I could buy a used car to replace the car that I purchased when I was first out of school.  My first car was manageable for my wallet, but not exactly what I really wanted to drive.  Once I arrived at the point in time when I could “buy up”, I envisioned a nice used car.  I wanted something that I would not be embarrassed to drive and which, at least in my mind, might be something that I really wanted to drive.

So- I headed down to the used car dealership.  In no time at all, I found just the perfect used vehicle.  It still had a shiny exterior with leather seats.  I figured it was just the ticket.  I liked nearly everything about it.

I stepped inside to meet the used car dealer.  Not long afterwards, I was sitting across the desk from a man named “Steve”.  Steve was running numbers on his calculator in response to my pleas for the best price.  As I sat across from Steve, I noticed that there was a picture on Steve’s desk.

In the tiny print I could make out that it was a Harley-Davidson advertisement with the words on it:  “If You Didn’t Have To Answer To Anyone, What Would You Do?”  The ad had been torn from a magazine and folded into the frame.  Pretty soon I just had to ask Steve:

“What would you do if you did not have to answer to anyone?”

Steve looked up from his calculator a little surprised but not slow to answer.  “I’d be a professional photographer”, he said in whispered words.  “I’ve never told anyone that.  You are the first person that has ever asked me that question”.

I wondered how it could be that no one had asked Steve that question, even as the picture sat on Steve’s desk.

I wondered to myself:  “What would I do if I could do anything I want?”  I found the answer, perhaps hiding inside of me and undoubtedly, worried to admit that I could ever have such far-fetched dreams.  At least they seemed that way to me.  I sat in front of Steve long enough to know that there was only one thing that I could possibly say:

“Steve, it seems I cannot buy the used car.  My car actually drives fine. I just didn’t like the way it looked and I wanted to get something better.  You however, have inspired me to know that my Dreams are better than this car.  I’m sorry, but I can’t buy the car”.

As if happy for me, Steve smiled.  I failed to see a disappointment for the loss of a car sale.  Then Steve picked up the framed advertisement and he handed it to me.

“Make your Dreams come true”, he said.

I’ve had this framed advertisement on my desk more years than I can count.

About twenty years after I thought I was going to buy that used car, a business journal was doing an article on me for some inexplicable reason.  I think it was because I had achieved a Dream.  When the journal called, they said that they were sending a photographer out to take my picture.  They gave me his name.  Yes- it was Steve, the same Steve who used to work at the used car dealership.

I had the framed advertisement with me when we met for the photo shoot.  We both cried a little.

If you need a great professional photographer, let me recommend Steve Vorderman.  https://www.voderman-photo.com

I am still Dreaming.  I write my Dreams in my Dream Book.  It helps me to stay accountable and to keep me focused on the journey.  I picked a really beautiful journal for my Dream Book.  It is held together with layers of clear contact paper now.

If you don’t have a Dream Book, it’s time to get a Dream Book.  God made you for a purpose.


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In the Gospels, there is a story about how Jesus asked several fishermen to come and follow him.  These men, Jesus said, upon accepting his invitation, would no longer be fishermen by trade, but would become fishers of men.

So, here is the Gospel story:  Peter, James and John were fishing all night long and they caught nothing.  In the morning, they met up with Jesus.  Jesus tells them to go back out to fish.  They complain:  “We’ve been at this all night long and have caught nothing”.  Nonetheless, they pushed their boat out to sea.

Then the miracle happens and their nets are full of fish.  Their nets are so full that they begin to break.  These men have to call for help from another boat to help them with all the fish.  And then, when their boats are near to sinking from the weight of the fish, they make it back to shore.  That is a lot of fish!

Once back to shore, Jesus invites these men to become his disciples.  Here’s the line that gets us all in a tizzy.  He says:  ‘Leave everything behind and come and follow me’.

Now, Peter, James and John are probably thinking that this sounds like a pretty good gig.  Just think- if Jesus can tell them where and when to put their boats out to catch fish, they could minimize the downtime and maximize the profit.  They are probably thinking that they are going to be big time!

For years I have thought that when Jesus said to leave everything behind, he was talking about material possessions.  I wondered about having no belongings and no money.  Did Jesus just perform one miracle after another to provide food to sustain them and a place for them to lay their heads?

The more I reflect on this, the more certain I am that perhaps leaving everything behind is a reference to something much more significant than material goods.  Perhaps this is a reference to the things we carry with us each day that are heavier than our clothes and the rest of our stuff.  Perhaps the invitation of Jesus is to leave behind our worries, our fears, our disappointments, our anger, our frustrations, our insecurities.

The more I think about it, the more I am certain that our mentality and the mentality of Peter, James and John may be to think of “everything” in a financial or material sense, but I am pretty sure that this was not the invitation that Jesus had in mind.  (Peter shows us that leaving fear behind is a really hard thing to do.  He denied Jesus three times because of his fear).  Leaving behind our fears and insecurities though, is perhaps exactly what Jesus invites us to do.


This is Resa Royale.  We sell jewelry that is custom fine jewelry and finished designer jewelry.  But- the rest of the story is that we share His story too.


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During COVID, perhaps the definition of FUN was wearing your jammies and talking to friends on Zoom, maybe even with a cocktail in hand.

That was FUN.  And there was really nothing more.  We read books and we watched movies and maybe we exercised from home- but, that never rose to the level of “FUN”.  That was more like downtime with only a faint glimmer of “Fun” time.

But- that is all that there has been!  There haven’t been holidays with family or get-togethers with friends.  Your jammies, your Zoom, your book, your movies- and that has been the end of the story.

But get ready- the story is about to take a giant turn!  The end is in sight!  We are getting inoculated and we can start to see that there is a light at the end of this tunnel.

When I had cancer, I had a long list of things that I could not do.  Once I was through that time, I was happier than most any other time in my life.  Of course, because I was cancer-free, but the rest of the story is the total joy I experienced to be able to go back to the things that I loved.  Little things that otherwise meant nothing- they became special in a way that only deprivation can instill.  I loved experiencing the things I got back- focusing on every little detail about those things and really appreciating the lost that was now found.

And that is exactly what we are about to experience.  Once again, we are going to put on a pretty outfit and have some place to go.  Once again, we are going to dine at a favorite restaurant or go shopping for a holiday gift.  Once again, we are going to travel and go to a hotel someplace away from home.

I know we are not there yet- but, it’s coming.  It’s coming- and I promise you, it is going to be better than you ever imagined- to experience all of the things that you had once loved, but were lost.  You will see it.  You will taste it.  You will experience it.

You are about to know what it is like  to be a cancer patient- who has just been given a clean bill of health.

Look out World!

Happiness is ahead in a way that you have never experienced before.

Keep focusing on that light at the end of the tunnel.  It IS getting brighter.  And I can’t wait for what comes next!

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Have you ever known God to get your attention despite everything that you may have done to avoid it?  It happened to me.

One bright Summer morning, when I believed that I had not a care in the World, everything in my life suddenly changed.  I heard words said to me that I never thought that I would hear.  But that bright Summer morning is when everything changed.  I was told: “You have cancer”.

After three surgeries, I was given time for R & R  for my body to heal before chemotherapy started.  During this time, I wandered into a church.  Down on my knees I prayed: “God, help me to hear your voice”.

From where did I get that prayer?  Had God gone so far as to help shape my prayer?  Where had this thought come from:  “Lord, help me to hear your voice”?  This is where the story- a very true story- takes on this interesting twist.

In response to my prayer, my brain had a thought that I have never known to think of my own accord.  It was a completely foreign thought- so, I can only surmise that maybe, just maybe, this was God talking to me.  Here is what I heard:  “Read the book:  Jesus Calling”.   Isn’t that the strangest thing?  I didn’t know of this book:  Jesus Calling.  I had not been introduced to this book to the best of my knowledge.  But- that is exactly what came to my brain as I said this prayer.

So, maybe you might be thinking that I went right out and bought the book:  Jesus Calling.  No, not me! I thought this Jesus Calling thing to be nonsensical and I tucked those words into the far reaches of my brain.  I dusted the words away and I went off.  I just let the whole thing drop in my mind and I left the memory of it all to wither in my past.  I lacked understanding and comprehension of the very prayer that I asked God to help me with:  “Let me hear your voice”.

But then, God is persistent.

About a month later, I had this memory rush forward in my mind when I opened my mailbox.  Inside my mailbox I found a small package from an aunt with a book inside.  It was a note of support.  The book?  You guessed it:  Jesus Calling.  There it was, a copy of that book that I had only recently heard about in this strange thought as I knelt in church.  It was a real book and now by some strange coincidence, I was holding a copy of the book in my hands.

God – yes, He can be very insistent! In my case though, He has to work overtime!  He had to hit me over the head!!

Then, about a week later, and a second copy of the book: Jesus Calling appeared in my mailbox from another person.

And wait for this- it didn’t end!  Again and again the pattern repeated.  I received another, then another, then another copy of the book- more and more copies of Jesus Calling.

I got something like 20 copies of the book.  I got them in the mail.  They were dropped off at the house.  I had them personally presented.  You name it!  They kept coming! It happened over and over and over again.  People told me that they continued to feel a need to go out and buy the book for me.  They said that it was a “nagging” sense that they experienced as their minds told them:  “Go and buy Catherine Jesus Calling”.

I have read the book, to be certain.  I kept for myself a beautiful copy of the book.  It has a pink leatherette cover.

The many other copies of the book I gave away.  When I told someone about my experience, if a person remarked  that they should read the book, I gave them a copy from my personal library.  Yes, that library- complete with only one book:  Jesus Calling.

Jesus Calling has a message of love for all people of every faith tradition.

God just has a way of getting our attention- despite everything we do!  And me, I’m still asking for help to listen to His voice.  Cancer free.

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I love the writings of Matthew Kelly, an Australian-born business and spiritual writer.  Matthew Kelly loves to say a couple of things.  One of my favorites is:   “Change your habits and you can change your life”.

I believe this.  I’ve seen it happen in my own life.

Here’s an example:  I could say:  “I wish I could have a better body”, but then if I don’t change my habits and if I live and eat and drink the same as I always have, then my body will not change.  It is impossible to have it change under conditions that are no different than they have always been.

If you don’t change what you eat and what you drink and how you live, then it is guaranteed- your body will not change.  You have to change what you do and how you treat your body – before your body can change.  To change, consider how you feed your body, what you give it to drink and what exercise you give to your body.  When you change your habits for your body, your body will change.

They say that if you consistently change what you do for 21 days, then you will have changed your habit and once you have changed your habit- you will change!

What do you need to change?  Start with one thing.  Then do it!  Do it for 21 days and see if you are different.  I guaranty that you will be!

If you want to change, change how you think about yourself.  I sell jewelry- so, I like to tell people that if you keep buying exactly the same things and think that it will give you a new and exciting difference in your appearance- then, just know- it won’t!  It is not going to happen!  Choose something different!  Choose to be different!  Once you have changed things up in your appearance, not only will other people take a second look at you- you will take a second look at yourself!

People will ask:  “What’s different about you”?  Here’s the answer:  “I’ve changed my habits and once I changed my habits, I changed myself”.

Choose to change for the best that you can be.

P.S.  That reminds me of another one of my favorite Matthew Kelly expressions:  “Become the best version of yourself”.

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If you could paint a picture of what love looks like, what would it be like?  Imagine that this picture of love is created only from nature.  What would it be like?

As time passes, it seems to me that my picture of love looks like this:  At the bottom of the picture, love is like a valley.  It is full of brightly colored flowers.  The sheer space that the flowers have is broad and wide.  One color moves into another in this explosion of color.  The flowers have their thin stems and the heads of the flowers blow easily in the wind.  It is so beautiful to look at all of the color and the unique design that the flowers have.

And then, imagine that time passes.  The painting depicts an ascent up a mountain.  Notice that there are these brightly colored flowers, but the flowers are interspersed with bushes.  Some small.  Others larger.  Some of the bushes have their own flowers.  Many of the bushes have leafy branches.  The flowers and bushes are growing from the incline at the base of the mountain.

And then time passes.  And the mountain gets steeper as love climbs.  The bushes have broader branches and they have deeper roots.  The bushes have a better stronghold against the incline of the mountain.  There are some trees along this path- their trunks are lean and their height is low, but they scatter about this breadth of the mountain.

And then time passes.  And the mountain terrain has a higher vantage point.  The view of the area below is clear.  You can see the bright colored flowers below but there are fewer of them around the path as you walk.  Now instead, there are more trees and the trees have thicker, stronger trunks and the bushes have thicker branches.  The leaves of the trees and bushes have grown bigger.  And as time continues to pass, the bushes are almost trees as they push their height and expand their breadth.  The mountain walk allows a better view of what is on top of the mountain.  From this vantage point, what is below has become blurred, without its sharp definition.  Instead, it has become an impression of color that has run together.

And time passes.  And eventually, you are at the top of the mountain looking down.  Now, all that is below takes on that broad brushstroke of color with its blurred definition.  Nothing is clearly visible but the overall perspective.  The perspective is better than it has been before.  You can see above you as you have never seen before.

For me, this is my picture of love.  I share this with you, upon the marriage of my beloved niece, Sarah, to her partner, Ben.***


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On a walk in our mountainside desert area this week, I saw the strangest thing. From a rock grew a tree.  The tree trunk rested against the side of this rock, with the trunk supported by the rock.  The tree seemed to boast its strength.  How unlikely.  How wonderful.  We had had a strong wind the night before, as the seasons are changing and the winds are ushering in the cooler weather.  As tree branches lay across the landscape, here was this tree- holding strong and proudly boasting its branches and leaves.

This scene made my mind race in a million different directions.  How many times have I found myself in situations in which I knew that I had to be strong in the face of difficulty?  How many times did I have to accept my fear and walk ahead with courage? We have all been there.  And was there a rock for support?

I thought about the many people in history that have had to have courage and I wondered what might their rock of support have been?  My Aunt Catherine took a case to the Illinois Supreme Court in about 1940, to petition the Court for women to be able to divorce their husbands without cause- a right that had long belonged to men.  To be sure- there were no female Illinois Supreme Court justices to consider her case!  We each know a story of someone close to us that has had courage to speak up or to act in the face of challenge, perhaps even to their own detriment.

For me- I am always sure that I have the rock of God’s love and support reminding me that I am never alone as I walk into challenges.  If I hear and feel the strength of conviction to do something or to say something that is uncomfortable, but which I know is what God asks for me to do, then I know I will have His rock supporting my otherwise frail trunk, my weak branches and my insignificant leaves.  When the winds blow, I know that I will have the support I need.  May we all feel that strength of a rock supporting us!


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I get affected by the things I read.  I just finished reading Leo Tolstoy’s The Death of Ivan Ilyich.  I am now reading Bill Bryson’s Neither Here Nor There.  It’s like going from a funeral to the best darned party you’ve been to for a very long time.  Good thing that I have them back to back- and I’m ending with the party!  I love a good social eat, drink and laugh!

In The Death of Ivan Ilyich, Ivan has successfully climbed the “corporate ladder” only to get to the top and find himself sick and dying.  When God asks Ivan what he wants in response to Ivan’s pleas for reprieve, Ivan says:  “I want to live”.  God asks him:  “When were you living?”  and then Ivan thinks about how he had some pleasure from work, but there was so much more to it that he could not identify in his work as “really living”.  So when had he “really lived”?  He remembered his childhood and fondly thought of all that “really living” meant then.

Now as I read Neither Here Nor There, Bill Bryson talks about the experience of traveling to Europe.  There is little that is knowingly familiar and everything is mysteriously fun and exciting in this travel through Europe.  In Great Britain, people don’t eat with their forks correctly.  In France, people cannot stand in line without a problem erupting.  In Spain, they do not know how to eat at the proper time, and the Italians, well forget it- they have absolutely no idea about how to drive a car!  And it just makes me laugh to think about how the simplest things are new and different and exciting from the moment I stepped off the American soil and into Bill Bryson’s read.  I just love it!

So, may we all be a kid for a while!  Some day we may find ourselves in the same spot as Ivan Ilyich and we might ask ourselves:  “When did we really live”?  I figure, I better start now to create the opportunities to feel like I am experiencing that excitement of childhood- to marvel at everything around me as new and fun and interesting rather than taking it all for granted in a boring repetition of a “matter of fact”.

And then see the Resa Royale jewelry and step into that “other World”.  www.ResaRoyale.com  We bring the best of designers from the World to our store.  It is jewelry that is International by Design.  It’s living for me!  Maybe for you too.


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If you haven’t started to dream about life with all that it can hold for you- I hope that you find this Reflection an invitation to do just that!  If I can help you to feel beautiful with the perfect Resa Royale jewelry- I would love that!  Please check out our website (www.ResaRoyale.com) and/or email me at Catherine@ResaRoyale.com or call me toll-free at (877)-496-9454.  It means the world to me to help to make your day nicer.

So many people tell me that as Covid drags on- that they need a little “pick me up”.  What makes you feel good in the midst of “it all”?

Here is my own “self help” list.  5 great things to do.  Maybe there is something in here that you might like.

  1. Sit in silence for a while every day. In silence I get a chance to stop- to review how well I may or may not have listened.  I try to think about what I learned during the day and to reflect on what opportunities I have missed.  It leaves a space for God to speak to me- without so much noise that otherwise prevents me from hearing.  I can otherwise pretty easily be unable to hear!
  2. Accomplish something.  Here’s something I can accomplish:  Reading a book.  I especially like to read books about someone I admire and that I would like to emulate.  Every time I do that, I learn about the tremendous difficulties people that I admire have suffered.  I realize that their courage and character were crafted only after they were sculpted by very hard times.  It just reinforces for me that the people that I admire most have not had it easy.  I hope to learn from their experiences.
  3. Do a kind deed.  It is incredible to me that by doing something for someone else, I really have no idea if the other person feels better about themselves and their own situation, but it makes me feel good about myself.  It is a double reward- one kind deed has twice the positive effect.
  4. Laugh a little.  There are more choices for comedy in movies, series shows and books than ever before- and the creativity of some of these is fantastic.  When the tears of laughter roll down my cheeks, it is just the best feeling in the world.  If you don’t know of good comedies, ask your friends or check out reviews online.  There are some great apps available for the culmination of reviews.
  5. Create something new.  Putting things together in the kitchen is a great talent.  I don’t happen to have that talent- but I really appreciate those that do!  Instead, I love to help people feel beautiful, recognizing their beauty.  If I can make a person smile with just the right wardrobe or accessories- it makes me feel like a million bucks.  I also love to write- and when I can do that in a meaningful way, it makes me feel good.  Your talent might be music or art or gardening or construction or design- but we each have talents and using them to create something wonderful is fantastic!

Let me know if I can do anything for you.  It would make my day.  In the meantime, stay well and enjoy a good laugh today!  With all my best to you.


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I fell in love with the poem “Desiderata” by Max Ehermann.  It was written in the late 1920s and yet, it is as relevant today as it was then.  Max Ehermann was a Terre Haute, Indiana attorney who left the practice of law in his 40s to focus on writing.  What a great choice that was- and we are all the beneficiaries!  Today, the best Reflection that I can share with you are the words from this great poem.

Perhaps if you keep these words close to you, they can help you through whatever challenges might be a part of your life.  Be well. In mind and body.  Know that we are never alone.


“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.  Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.  Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.  Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.  But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.  Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.  Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.  Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.  But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.  Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.  You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.  And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.  And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.  Be cheerful.  Strive to be happy.”

May this poem quench your mind, heart and soul.  May you and your families be well.


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I have heard it said many times, that when admirers went to see Mother Teresa in Calcutta, she who would often tell them: “Go find your own Calcutta”. It makes me smile just to think of her very direct nature and her truth in so few words.

Mother Teresa became this incredible person in history because she put people in showers who were found on the streets soiled by their own excrement. She dressed them in clean underwear. She put them in a bed with clean sheets and she gave them something to eat and drink. For some, these may have been the last and final experiences of their lives before their journey from this world to the next.

In my life, I find it difficult to relate to the dying, destitute people for whom Mother Teresa cared. I find it equally hard to consider myself as Mother Teresa- especially now, as I stave off any chance that there may be a virus at my home or in my body. How did Mother Teresa avoid getting sick herself? And how did she avoid the effects of dark despair, fatigue and loneliness? It all had to have taken its toll.

I can only think that if a person is doing such incredible work, that God gives them the health, the strength and the resources that they need to do that work. That is- Mother Teresa had to have had supporters- supporters who financially gave, who sent words of encouragement and who lent a helping hand. It has to be for anything as great as what Mother Teresa accomplished, that there were others who chose to support Mother Teresa and to physically and emotionally fill the depth of her body and her soul’s strength. They were a part of her story.

So “Where is our Calcutta”? We are called to help one another- whether by financially supporting one another, by giving of our time or by the gift of our talents in aid of one another. There is a Calcutta seemingly everywhere we look. It is waiting for us to join with others to make this World a better place. Let’s work to make a difference!

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The Bible begins with the book of Genesis.  In these first chapters, God creates the world and seeing that it is good, God gathers the dust of the earth together. Into this clay sculpture, God blows His breath and in this act of breathing, God creates a living human being.  His gift of breath breathes the Holy Spirit into us- infusing us with love.  God’s breath is love.

For George Floyd, this breath that he was given by God at his birth, was taken from him.  A very broken police officer, some accompanying incapacitated police officers and some reticent onlookers, all caused or acquiesced when George Floyd’s last breath of air was taken from him.  We mourn George Floyd’s death and the lack of love that all of the people at the scene of this event demonstrated, all of whom had been choked from their own breath of courage, reason and action.  In every sense, we mourn the depravity of love that caused this horrific event.

What shall we do with our own breath?  Shall we use it to condemn everyone involved when there have been times in our lives when we have lacked courage to stand up to what we know to be wrong?  Would we have had the courage, the reason and the strength to have taken steps to change this course of events, were we to have been there ourselves?  Have we demonstrated in our families, our jobs and our communities that we are dedicated to being the person who acts to stop the negativity and the destruction?  Are we blowing the breath of love into the situations that we face in our own lives?

We are called to have the courage to be love, to live love and to show love to every person.

Come Holy Spirit.  Fill us with love.  Fill our hearts with kindness, empower us to be agents for courage, strength and forgiveness.  Help us to be your breath of love.  Teach us Lord for we are weak- to learn to love and to be love.

It is your breath of love, breathed through our love of one another, that will resuscitate this broken world in which we live.

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How many times have you heard it said, or have you said to others: “I am not as smart as you are” or “I didn’t get the opportunities that you got” or “We did not have the money that you had”. The list could go on and on. Of course, we got talents and abilities and opportunities- but we often see ourselves in light of what we did not or do not have.

But imagine for a moment that whatever talents and abilities and opportunities that we each received- imagine that those talents and abilities and opportunities are not a part of our lives by chance. What if the fact that we have them is not even because we were somehow entitled to them or that we “earned” them? What if we did not get them because we “deserved” them?

What if instead, those gifts were given to us for a purpose? What if they are not what WE did or what we received by OUR efforts? Consider this: the talents and abilities and opportunities that we have were provided to us for God’s purpose.

We each have a purpose for our lives. God gave each of us a purpose for our lives. We were created with gifts- but, not just in order to sustain ourselves,but in order to give those gifts away to others. Our purpose is for one another.

Perhaps when we next have that “easy” thing completed, perhaps we might think: “How am I to use that talent for God’s purpose?” The more we think about that, the better our chance that the answer to that question will be understood. And perhaps, we will understand that other people got their talents and abilities and opportunities for their purpose from God and for God.

With that understanding, it is time to let go of wanting what they have!! It is time to get to work on what we have. On ourselves. And on God’s purpose for us.

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We live in a society that has a label for everything. There’s a label on the clothes we wear. There’s a label for the food we eat. There’s a label for the generation in which we were born. We are even told that others can tell a lot about who we are and how we think by virtue of the color of our skin or how we vote, our faith or our sexual orientation. It is as if there is a pre-determined thought process that comes with all of these labels that we have (or have been given). It is as if someone can talk about who we are without ever having met us.

But nothing could be farther from the truth! Who we are has nothing to do with labels. We are that voice within us that God gave us that makes us uniquely ourselves. That voice is God. How could God ever be limited or defined by a label?

What does that voice inside of you invite you to become? How does God manifest His glory in you? Unquestionably, it is something fantastic.

Embrace who you are!

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